SEX


My significant other has a very specific birthday request—sex everyday for a month. I am willing to give it a whirl but I am sure that there will be a sobering lesson at the end of this journey for the both of us.

Sex is like chocolate cake. Chocolate cake once or twice and week is oral pleasure—chocolate cake everyday for a month, not so much. I am afraid that I will miss out on the intricacies of the connection by having sex just to have sex. I don’t want to lose the tiny seconds of silence that come immediately after the sweet convulsion. I want the anticipation, the shivers…traversing the unknown. I want some kind of sacredness—sex should not be like watching television, eating or dressing everyday. It is not a routine test.

I am comfortable with my sexuality. It is a garment I wear with ease. However, I don’t believe that you need to have sex or think about sex to be sexy. Sexy is not something that you do, it is who you are. There are tons of people who have sex and are not sexy.
Sex, when done properly, is succulent. Sex, when used as currency, is perverse.

Because of love and my passion for learning experiences, I will travel where few other women have traveled before. But do know, that if this becomes routine, as I fear, I might have to opt for a new experience ;-)

Comments

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Dreamy said…
i like that second to last paragraph,

you go girl!!!

and poor Tim, I hope he finds what he is looking for in this world
Mizrepresent said…
Dayum at 7 years, i usually go into hives at 3 mos, and this sista don't like hives, at all. So i say this to say, of course i love sex with a familiar, with someone i am close with, but i desire that human touch so much that sometimes even a stranger can fulfill my ultimate needs at the time...just as long as i remember...one night i loved a stranger...i can, and i will...but only for one night.
The Socialite said…
I think that the chocolate cake was a great analogy to sex.
shine said…
@ torrance

this is true.

@dreamuy

why thank you. I hope that he finds it real soon.

@miz

lol. "one night i loved a stranger"--i love that line.

@socialite

glad that u found it fitting
who? said…
I like chocolate cake... I don't think I could go 7 years without chocolate cake... I like to fork the hell out of some chocolate cake when I have chocolate cake... but I'm sure never to fill it with cream... ms. shine... I make a hell of a chocolate cake... I'm not sure if significant other would approve of you coming to get some though...
shine said…
@ cool kidd

lmao...forking the chocolate cake. oh...the imagery. i'm sure that ur cake is very tasty.
You're right, shine, routine sex is not sex, it is patriotic duty and look at happened in eastern Europe, even the 'hard' Berlin Wall came tumbling down. Save it for more precious moments, treasure it and value it. It won't last forever.

Greetings from London.
shine said…
lol. glad that u understand. but what do you mean that it won't last forever?
Anonymous said…
Hmmmm!

I so share your sentiments... to much of a good thing can become boring. Just try to keep your heart in it!

Intimate Outings of Love
shine said…
@ tony oh

this is so true.
Well, I meant the capacity to generate sexual energy.

Greetings from London.
Eb the Celeb said…
I think it does take away the spontaneity and passion of it all if its pre-meditated or you feel obligated... but if that's what he wants for his birthday... I would be game too...

maybe where his arse out the first week to know end so that he might not even be able to make it...lol
shine said…
@ cuban,

really? is that for men or for women? lol

@eb,
lmao. u know, i think that i just might follow ur advice. put it down hard and quick. that will do it!
Jaguda said…
i understand this and agree with it. it may lose its connection if done every single day. the rest of the things u wrote are 100% accurate
shine said…
@ jugada,

i wish that you could speak with my sig other :-) the connection is what is most important to me. thanks for commenting and welcome.
Chari said…
a full month?

wow...I'd like to see how u pull this off...hope it doesnt ruin the flavour...
The Dreamy One said…
i know my blog is supposed to be private but its acting retarded and it wont let me read some of my favorite post.

so its open now....

update me on the blogroll, the name is thedreamyones.blogspot
shine said…
@ chari

i'll keep u posted. lol

@dreamy

will do
Jamil said…
I agree - that has to be one of the most selfish requests I've ever heard of. Sex is about "us", and that request is all about him.

That said, how's it going thus far?
RealHustla said…
I don't think ya'll will make it more than 9, 10 days tops. He's just trying to test your dedication to him and the relationship. Or, just trying to perform some kind of experiment. If you're willing to comply, no biggie right? Just go with the flow.
I loved this post...the entire post. So much truth. I agree with you about the sexy bit. I always say sexiness is an attitude.

I hope this experiment doesn't take away from the wonderment of lovemaking between you and the mister :-)
shine said…
@ invisible,

I'm preparing to blog about the events in a few days ;-)Thanks for stopping in.

@realhustla

Testing my dedication, huh. never thought about that. i just figured that she had a high sex drive. thanks for stopping in. welcome.

@queen

I am glad that you liked the post. Yes, you feel me on the sexiness part. Thanks for stopping in!
Judy D. said…
hmm sex for a month, do it

lol

but the catch is no sex for another month

actually, they will be a break, cuz of that special privilege we get once a month
kay-shawn said…
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kay-shawn said…
Interesting how you likened sex to chocolate cake.
Scientists say that it's the same substance in the brain, dopamine, that controls your desire for both.
So the next time someone asks you if you like chocolate he might actually be saying, 'do you like sex'?
-Q. said…
I feel you 500% with the sexy tip. You gotta believe it to have it. But i got to agree with both Judy D. and Eb.. Unless there are external things to yall experiment and the mindset is right(some rules are set) yall should be fine Sex is fun and intimate. If you got the good i say two weeks should calm him down. I say flood him out first three days- thats some playa shit.. I dude will Cut till it hurt but he aint Cuttin to much when its hurting before he start.. lol This was great lol.

Oh waddap, im -Q.
shine said…
@ judy d,

the task is over. lol. thanks for stopping in. welcome.

@kay-shawn,

u r right, sex and chocolate do stimulate the same hormones. did u know that too much stimulation can cause the receptors in ur brain to dull, therefore requiring more of the drug for stimulation? interesting to think about that in connection to sex. thanks for stopping in.

@q
glad that u hear me on the sexy bit. if things went as planned, i would have followed ur advice. maybe next time. lol. thanks for stopping in and welcome.
Don said…
I think you pretty much sum'd sex up. I enjoyed the read and agree with your thoughts....and actions.

Still very much impressive, I see. Good deal.
12kyle said…
*comin thru for tha 1st time*

very good post!

I could deal without chocolate cake but I won't deal without sex. Lmao!!!

Sex every day...hmmmm...dunno if the wife would be down. I'll ask her. If she doesn't cuss me out...I'll let you know. Haaaaa
shine said…
@ don,

glad that u enjoyed the read. welcome back.

@12kyle

thanks for stopping by. welcome. yeah, u go ask ur wife about that. maybe one of us can complete this task. haha
Buttercup said…
oh..sex everyday..hmmmm..

u said she stumbled upon it, so she knows ur stand concernin it, maybe once she digests it, she'll see reason..
shine said…
@buttercup

apparently she did. all is well that ends well.
eizzy.k said…
hmmm, i love chocolate but 2 much of anything is bad 4 you.

I think us women tend to view sex as a specail thing between man and woman, but men tend to view it as a normal urge, like hunger...
shine said…
eizzy.k

u are so right. but, there are some women have have a hunger for it too.

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